Why all the hate??? Why the word Bitch? Why you want them to turn on me? And who gave the media the right to control our thinking?

I remember in the 80’s and 90’s the hatred among Black men towards Black men was heightened with the cops and government perpetrating gang activity and drug use. We as a society begged our Black men to take our communities back and to start speaking out for the survival of our race.

So our brothas found hip hop. When hip hop came along and gave brothas a voice, their hate for each other started to dwindle, but it ventured into hate towards the Black woman. It seemed like the more money being passed out for record deals, the more prevalent it became to call us bitches. You couldn’t do a rap album without calling us money hungry bitches.

Oh, the saga continues. Then they started letting us on television. And how were we portrayed? We were portrayed as angry and bitter sistas who couldn’t find a man. We were portrayed as easy. Baby mamas. Ghetto. Hood rats. And even that wasn’t enough to kill our image to the black man..The media then went full fledged to show Black men that lighter and whiter was better. Then after they screwed up our Black men about us, they got us back to arguing over skin color and hair texture. And then what did we do? We embraced the word Bitch....That killed us...

So now they have the women fighting each other and got Black men saying we’re catty and that that's the reason they don't deal with us. They say that we’re argumentative and hateful. They have us re-embracing the light versus dark drama.

But now the ultimate turn comes when we (Black women) get afforded the same rights as white men, something not even white women are afforded. We are able to get loans and grants not accessible to others because we are Black women, to start businesses, purchase homes, pay for college, all without a man. Is it designed this way to lead to total separation of the Black man and Black woman? Is it a trap that the media is setting us up for? They show us as successful Black women who can’t get a man to marry us. For instance, “The Game.” Out of all the women on the show there was only one white woman among a whole bunch of sistas, and guess what, she was the only one married and guess to who, A Black man...and guess who approved of this layout of a script?...A Black woman. Wow...

Now, I'm not saying that I'm right bout all of this...These are just mere thoughts...but I'm jus' sayin'...Be not easily broken.

Is it on purpose, or just a coincidence????

Least likely to get married. More likely to have AIDS or breast cancer. Least likely to graduate college with good credit. More likely to be subject to domestic violence or drugs. Least likely to earn more than $40,000 per year. More likely to have children out of wedlock. Least likely to own a home. More likely to have an abortion due to economic challenges. With all these statistics against them, it’s no wonder the Black woman is angry. Then what about the statistics concerning the Black man? More likely to go to prison than to college. Least likely to graduate with a trade or skill. More likely to enter into a drug rehab program. Least likely to get a job to support a family or bring his family out of poverty. More likely this least likely that. Enough is enough.

What happened to us when we got free? What happened to the things that the talented tenth promised? Did the promises get lost when the Mercedes and Expeditions became popular? Why are we losing so many Black males to violence and the justice system? And finally when are we going to finally step up to the plate to say “No More.” People are quick to say that the reason Blacks are in the situation we are currently in is because “we are lazy.” The world will look at a couple of successful Blacks and ultimately decide that the not so successful Blacks are not of the elite group because they just didn’t try hard enough. Some even feed on this stereotype and say, “I did it. I didn’t have a man in my house. I didn’t have a father. I didn’t use welfare. I didn’t commit a crime to get ahead.” I say, “well, good for you.” But what are you doing to help now?

Is donating money to the Boys and Girls club every year to get a tax write-off showing your support? Or how about this, building another recreational spot or sponsoring another youth sports team? Oh yeah, and let’s not forget the biggest one now. Once a year you find the time to read a book to a child. I am so proud of all of our sistas and brothas who have fought the odds, accepted help along the way, and did what they had to do to make it. But there is still work to be done, especially concerning the Black male.

People say, “Why all this talk about the Black male? The Black woman has suffered also and she has made it.” I ask, “Is that because she really tried extra hard, or is it by design?” I know I’m going to ruffle a few feathers with that one. However, I typed in “grants for Black or Minority women” in a Google search and about one hundred pages of results came back. I typed in grants for Black or Minority men and about one page of results came back.

So I ask, “is it easier for the Black woman to surpass the success of a Black man because she works hard or because the plan is to make her "not" need the Black man?” I'm not saying that it's true...but I'm jus' sayin'...Be not easily broken...

Where's the government when a single person needs them?

Okay, so you work all your life...well, let's say, you've worked since you were 16. Now you're 32. But since the age of 16 you've been paying into a system that is supposed to help you should you fall down on your luck...But does it and who is it really for?

We'll call her Jenny. Jenny is 24. Never worked. Has two children and is pregnant again. They get free health care across the board. She gets food stamp assistance, has a nice section 8 townhouse, gets a utility check for lights and gas, and receives financial assistance through the TANF program. She drives a 2007 Camry that Belinda who is 34, no children, no section 8, and no food benefits is paying for. Not only is she paying for Jenny, but she's paying for Mary, Tasha, Sharon, and Dionne and has been paying for them for the last 18 years. Here's the problem. Stay with me.

Belinda now has no job. Her rent is due. Her unemployment was denied because she could not report to work because she could not afford to get her car fixed which was her transport to a job that was not on the bus line. She has been seeking employment actively and aggressively for about 3 months, but since the recession, hasn't been able to find it...Not even the temp agencies can send her on an assignment. And not even McDonald's is easy to get hired with anymore. She did manage to get food stamp assistance of 200.00 per month which she hustles by buying food and selling hot dogs and hamburger plates. This money has helped her to get the part she needed for her car and neighbor Josh put the part on for free cause he understands the struggle. Now she's able to drive her car but can't pay for the insurance, so let's hope she doesn't get in front of or pass a ticket hungry tag running cop. She calls United Way and gets info for agencies that help with rental assistance, but when she gets there they tell her she has to have children under the age of 18 in the home. She goes to DFACS (dept. of family and children services) and they won't give her assistance because she doesn't have children.

Over the course of 18 years she's paid in about $18,000.00 and that's being nice with the numbers to a system that can't help her now.

Seems like finding a baby daddy is easier than finding a job. Maybe she should get pregnant and have a baby as a back up plan instead of trying to use her degrees as one.....I'm not saying that she should....but I'm jus' sayin'....Be not easily broken...